From Survival To Self-Leadership
The part of you that survived your trauma, is the same part that can guide you into a more deliberate, healthy and self-directed life.
My work at Develop Your Authority© is rooted in one profound truth: real authority is built on the ability to survive your own dismantling.
I spent years in self-sabotaging cycles and dysfunctional relationships, unaware that those moments of unhealthy patterns, were actually when my potential was expanding the most.
I believe there is a necessary phase of psychological decomposition, a time when the masks we’ve worn begin to dissolve. For me, finding my agency required deep isolation; a sacred period of time when my world went so quiet, I could finally hear my own voice.
For you, your greatest destiny may not be in the destination itself, but in who you become while you break apart. When your truth finally asks to be heard, I will be there to provide you steady guidance and a compassionate heart.
Jessica Gracie, MUP, NATC
Master UnTherapy Practitioner
Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician
This Was My Story
I did not come to this work easily.
My early life was shaped by relentless violence, psychological torture, and emotional neglect. Later, at age 35, my body collapsed under the weight of neurological Lyme disease and variety of autoimmune illnesses. I spent years confined to a bed, and then in a wheelchair.
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I was being forced to confront
what could not be outrun or overridden.
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My path to recovery did not arrive through therapeutic methods alone. It also came through spiritual surrender, acceptance, and a slow reconstruction of my inner world. I reclaimed my life by evolving from the inside out. Today, my work centers on teaching others neutrality as a path back to themselves and to reclaim their agency by building stable self-leadership skills.
If Adversity
Shapes You,
Let Your Authority Be The Result.
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I Was Transformed In The Dark
I imagine many who find this website carry painful or complex life histories, because kindred spirits tend to recognize one another. My own background had been complex and demanding, offering both extreme challenges and profound opportunities for healing and growth.
As a young adult, I realized that meaningful change required guidance, not willpower alone. I continuously sought out positive role models and teachers, working with skilled psychologists, mentors, and spiritual guides across multiple disciplines from Eastern traditions to Indigenous wisdom lineages.
Ultimately, I returned to school, integrating my formal education with disciplined spiritual frameworks, shaping them slowly into a successful private practice.
Forged Through Fire
"My core belief as a coach and counselor is that when someone is given the right tools, old wounds can serve as a foundation in which wisdom and grace can emerge."
- Jessica Gracie
Emerged With Light
Today, I run a coaching practice called Inner Command Coaching, devoted to helping others find their way back to themselves. I share the skills, presence, and support that once carried me through my own darkness, guiding people to the core of who they were before trauma took hold. I have reclaimed my life and I deeply believe in your capacity to reclaim yours.
Education & Credentials
Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician
NATC Trained
Completed 44 hours of advanced training in the Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician (NATC) curriculum in the fields of Antagonism-Informed Care, Trauma Bonding, and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery.
Master UnTherapy Practitioner
Teaching Certification
Completed a 64-hour post graduate teacher training of the UnTherapy® Program and Internship with all the rights and privileges of a proficient mentor and teacher in the fields of UnTherapy®, Positive Psychology, and Reality Therapy.
Personal Development Consultant
Consulting Certification
Intensive study of life management, personal development consulting, and professional peer mentoring. 64-hour certification program.
Life Coach
Life Coaching Certification
Successfully completed the 64-hour intensive study on the integrative approaches of positive psychology, mindfulness, and solution-based problem solving earning all the rights and privileges of a professional mentor.
Wellness Counselor
Wellness Counseling Certification
Certified as a Wellness Counselor completing the 64-hour intensive studies with all the rights and privileges of a proficient mentor specializing in the holistic approaches of life management, personal development, consulting, and wellness counseling.
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“I’ve worked with Jessie for more than 5 years, through many different challenges and life changes. Her ability to apply a unique blend of empathy and practicality to any situation is truly remarkable. She is not only a great listener, but actually helps move the needle in problem solving. Her gift at synthesizing our sessions in notes I can refer back to is an added bonus. I highly recommend her to anyone who is ready to embrace change- big or small- and lean into their own agency to make things happen.”
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